Nothing makes a conversation more awkward than being asked a question that you don’t want to answer. 

 

At first, the question seems so innocent, but somehow it manages to cut us to the bone.

Here are a few examples:

When Grandma hugs you and then pops the question, “We didn’t get divorced in my day. How’d you let that happen?”

Your married girlfriend invites your for coffee and innocently asks, “When are you going to have children?”

Your co-worker flashes her new wedding ring and then says, “Don’t you want to get married?”

Awkward questions can sometimes take the fun out of social interactions, and, instead, add stress to what should be a good time. It’s hard to maintain your personal power and not allow someone else’s behavior to zap your Zen.

 

Here are three quick and easy ways to shut down questions that you don’t want to answer. 

 

Answer a question with a question.

You probably know what kind of questions bother you so prepare responses. Side-step uncomfortable questions by having your own questions at the ready. The secret of this tactic is that most people love to talk, and they really love to talk about themselves even more than they want to talk about you!

Derail an awkward question by changes tracks.

Example: Why are you still single?

Answer: I’m looking for a relationship like yours. Can you remind me how you met grandpa?

 

Avoid, Avoid. Avoid. 

It’s always okay to not answer someone’s question. Just because they asked doesn’t obligate you to answer. It’s your business.

Avoid answering the question by shifting subjects.

If they ask again, change the subject again.

Example: Why did you get divorced?

Answer: I’m reading this book about home decor and thinking about painting my kitchen. What color do you think would look good in there?

..Just say no.

If you’re cornered or the person keeps pushing you for answer, just say

“This isn’t something I want to talk about right now.”

Remember that you don’t have to be bullied into a conversation that feels uncomfortable.

Final Bonus Tip:

Don’t allow yourself to tie your worth, happiness, or confidence to these kind of questions.

If you get asked questions that pinch because they’re your pain points, take a moment to breathe. Don’t get upset, or defensive. Simply answer with a smile.