You need love and companionship. You weren’t meant to be alone. You want love from you families, from your friends, from a partner, from your children, and from yourself. Essentially you want a tribe of people that you love and that love you back.
When you have the relationships you want and need, thrive.
Love is a foundation for success and happiness.
Love is the root and the core of our beings.
Ugh, that sounds great if you have all the love you want.
But what if you don’t?
Love is like a well. It can be very deep and flow freely or it can run dry.
After a divorce or years of being without love, the love well may run dry. If you feel that your love well is dry, you may experience one or more of the following symptoms:
You lose the momentum that you once had.
You lose the feeling of being secure.
You don’t feel connected anymore.
Your health and happiness declines.
You lose sleep.
You lose our creativity.
You lose your zest for life.
Once the hurt sets in, you may develop Love Locks.
What is a Love Lock?
They become defense mechanisms that we use to protect us from the very thing that we need.
Love Locks get in the way of giving and receiving love in our relationships. The relationship we have with ourselves, the relationships with family and friends, and romantic relationships are all affected by Love Locks.
Love Locks are common. Most of us have them.
Most Love Locks get started by a negative experience such as:
A childhood experience
A past event that created negative beliefs around love
A concept passed down from our ancestors through stories
Something that we witnessed that scared us
A divorce – a big cause for Love Locks
After the experience, we started to think.
We start to build a case for not letting that experience happen again.
We built up our evidence.
We start to say and think things like:
No one will ever love me.
I need to be (thinner, prettier, richer, smarter) in order to find love.
I can’t trust anyone.
I don’t need anyone.
Relationships take away my freedom.
We develop an uncomfortable feeling around some part of love.
These thoughts often turn into beliefs.
As these negative thoughts become a beliefs, we accept them as personal facts.
They become a part of our subconscious.
We start acting and reacting to world through those false beliefs.
We don’t even know we’re doing it.
And we keep having negative experiences around love.
The evidence keeps building. The negative false beliefs gets LOCKED into place. Our thoughts keeps flowing in the wrong direction. Bad stuff keeps happening.
Sooner or later, we start to notice that there is a pattern:
We pick the same kind of partners that aren’t good for us.
We dislike ourselves.
We have failed relationships.
We fear love.
We keep trying to find love but fail.
We feel unlovable.
We stay single.
We are unhappy.
We try to make sense of the unhappiness. We talk to our friends. We Google things like single over 40 (50, 60, 70, 80)! We search without finding solutions.
We still have a Love Lock.
The reason is that it takes knowledge, work, and time to remove a Love Lock. The truth is that you’re the only one that can remove that Love Lock because you’re the only one that knows how you created it.
You have to do the work.
You have to change the false belief.
However, you need the right tools, knowledge, and support.
The first step to happier life is to identify your toxic core beliefs that are getting in the way of your happiness. Get your FREE Love Lock Self-Assessment.