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A Love Lock is a toxic core belief that prevents you from being your authentic self and negatively impacts your reality and relationships.

This story does an excellent job of explaining how a belief can turn into a Love Lock and shows that you can unlock your Love Lock.

Are you a cracked pot?

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots. Each pot hung on the ends of a pole, which she carried across her shoulders. Every day, she used this device to carry water to her home.


One of the pots was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. The other had a deep crack in it and leaked. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.


For a full two years this situation occurred daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.


After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, the cracked pot spoke to the woman one day by the stream, saying, “I am ashamed of myself because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.”


The old woman smiled and replied, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walked back home you watered them and made them grow. For two years, I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table and give to my friends and neighbors. Without you being just the way you are, there would not have been this special beauty to grace our homes and lives.”

Are you ready to see the flowers, unlock your Love Lock, and embrace how marvelous you are?

Here Are Nine Things You Can Do To Work On Your Love Locks So That You Can Start Appreciating Your Self MORE! 


  1. Increase the number of positive things you say to yourself, about yourself.


  1. Decrease the number of negative things you say to yourself, about yourself.

3. Practice giving and receiving genuine compliments.

a. Develop a more realistic view of the world and your place in it.

b. Develop an appreciation of your own worth.


4. Accept that you are not responsible for the emotional reaction of others.

  1. Accept your weaknesses and mistakes. Learn from them!


  1. Refrain from comparing yourself to others. Comparisons are deadly!


  1. Work at reducing indecisiveness.


  1. Limit the number of commitments you make. Balance your life.


  1. Use your imagination-spend time regularly recalling your successes.


The Weekly Genuine Appreciation Restoration Plan — Set aside 15 minutes to do this every week! 


  1. List three successes you have achieved this week. (New successes each week)


  1. List one good habit you are working on.


  1. List one challenge you are working on.


  1. List a new positive attitude you have found for yourself.


  1. List three rewards you have given yourself. (Non-food rewards)


Click here to download your copy of  The Weekly Genuine Appreciation Restoration Plan