What Is A Love Lock

Love Lock (n):

A toxic core belief that prevents you from being your Authentic Self and negatively impacts your reality and relationships.

 

Love Locks usually start with “I’m” followed with a negative or derogatory thing about yourself.

I’m ___________________________________ (fill in the blank).

 

Examples

 

The Success Love Lock Category

I’m not good enough.

I’m not ready.

I’m a failure.

I’m too poor.

I’m a loser and can’t do it.

I’m so weak and I can’t change.

I’m not lucky.

I’ll never be able to______.

I’m lazy and I should work harder.

I’m not strong enough.

I’m not smart enough.

I’m sure there’s something wrong with me.

I’m an impostor, who am I to do______________?

I’m nothing and don’t deserve to succeed because everyone else is better than I am.

I’ve made bad choices in the past so I don’t deserve to be happy or be successful.

I’m so messed up and it’s too late for me.

I’m doomed.

I’m too boring for anyone to care about what I have to say.

I’m unworthy.

I’m too odd.

I’m too (shy, loud, fat, ugly, sensitive, old, young, poor) to be__________.

 

The Self Category

I’m too fat.

I’m too thin.

I’m too smart.

I’m too awkward around other people.

I’m ugly. Why try? I’ll never look like ______.

I’ll never look the way I want to look.

I’m not sexy enough.

I’m not pretty.

I’m too old.

I’m not smart enough.

I’m funny looking.

I’m quiet, shy, or an introvert.

I’m not as good as everyone else.

I’m horrible looking, I hate the way I look.

I’m sure there’s something wrong with the way I look.

I’m have the wrong skin, hair, eye color.

I’m not capable of looking pretty like everyone else.

I’m not sexy.

I’m too tall/short.

 

 

The Relationship Category

I’m not lovable.

I’m not desirable and no one cares about me.

I’m sure there’s something wrong with me.

I don’t need anyone because people are awful.

I’m a bad mom, daughter, friend, etc.

I’m going to die alone.

I’m not valuable.

I’m not enough for someone.

I’m boring.

I’m not deserving of a partner.

I’m too independent.

I’m a control freak.

I don’t think anyone will ever want me and my kids.

I’ve been divorced X times so I can’t get married again.

I’m not attractive to the people that I find attractive.

I’m not able to trust other people.

I can’t have it all. (Relationship, career, family, etc.)

I’m too weird.

I’m not exciting because my life is too boring.