What if you are good enough but just don’t know it?
Do you feel like you’re good enough?
Good enough to achieve your dream?
Good enough for your relationships?
Good enough to be happy?
If you answered “no” to any of those questions, you have a Love Lock!
What is a Love Lock?
A toxic core belief that prevents you from being your Authentic Self and negatively impacts your reality and relationships is a Love Lock, a term I created and use quite a bit in my coaching practice.
If you feel in any way not good enough in life, then you probably have a toxic core belief about yourself that is holding you back. For your information, you are good enough but often you can’t see it.
If you’re trying to become “good enough,” then you’re working on the wrong problem.
Your problem is that you have a Love Lock, a negative, false belief about yourself.
You don’t need to change a single thing about yourself
except your belief that you aren’t good enough. Once you unlock the Love Lock, you’ll be surprised at how good you feel and the amazing things you can accomplish.
You created this Love Lock using three powerful tools.
Experience – Somewhere in your history, you had, or heard about, a negative experience. Maybe you were brave and took a risk on something, and it didn’t work out. Maybe something that you can’t explain happened and it disturbed you, or maybe you couldn’t control a situation and that scared you.
Thoughts – After the experience, you mulled it over again and again. Eventually, you decided that you didn’t want to repeat that kind of experience. Your thoughts create beliefs, and beliefs create actions or lack of actions. If your thoughts are constantly telling you that you aren’t good (thin, smart, outgoing, young) enough, you are less likely to engage in the world.
Evidence – While you were thinking about that experience, you were processing your thoughts and making a case for this new belief, “I’m not good enough,” using evidence. Evidence is other experiences and facts that you acquire which corroborate the experience as being negative to your wellbeing.
In time, you adopt this new belief as fact and start behaving like you aren’t good enough.
Since 97% of women have at least one Love Lock, it’s nothing to feel bad about.
Nevertheless, a Love Lock most likely lessens the quality of your life.
Aren’t you tired of believing that you aren’t good enough?
Wouldn’t it be amazing to wake up tomorrow and be free from the burden of feeling that way?
Here are three things that you can start doing right now to feel better!
“Every seashell is beautiful and unique. So am I.” There is only one you. You are here for a reason, and the world needs you. When you are trapped in a Love Lock, you aren’t your best self. The world needs your best self. Watch that self-talk! If your words, spoken or thinking, are negative, they’re harmful. Simply stop allowing yourself to go down that path. Change your words, change your life. How you speak to yourself is the beginning of a belief. Stop creating negative beliefs about yourself.
Negative thoughts about yourself is a bad habit. Think of it like smoking, overeating, or overspending. It’s not good for you, and you have to stop doing it if you want a happy life. Just like with any bad habit, you need a plan to stop indulging in it. What triggers your Love Lock? Once the Love Lock starts attacking you, how will you stop yourself from indulging in the attack? What actions can you take to change your negative self-talk? How will you be accountable?
Know Your Triggers
Start trying to figure out what triggers your Love Lock so that you know when to take preventative action. Make a plan to avoid these triggers whenever possible. Make another plan to sooth them if they do take over.
Even a 1% increase in positive self-talk can help free you from a Love Lock.
To start unlocking your Love Locks, get your FREE Love Lock Assessment!